Recommend questions to explore in therapy to understand your emotions.
Here is the radical truth: You are not a monster. i love my fatherinlaw more than my husband
What does your father-in-law do that your husband does not? Is it active listening? Is it bringing stability? Is it repairing things without being asked? 2. Communicate with Your Husband Recommend questions to explore in therapy to understand
The goal is not to force yourself to stop loving your father-in-law. The goal is to build a marriage where you don't need to rank them. You can love your husband deeply (even if it's hard right now) and cherish your father-in-law for the good man he is. Is it active listening
Ask yourself, "What does my father-in-law provide that my husband doesn't?" Is it listening? Is it a sense of humor? Is it stability?
If your husband is abusive, do not go to couples therapy. Do not try to "fix" the comparison. You need to leave. And you can absolutely maintain a relationship with your father-in-law after the divorce, if he is a safe person.
: List the specific traits you admire in your father-in-law (e.g., consistency, active listening, financial responsibility).